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Dear Gerry

So I’m not exactly sure when misogyny became so hip, cool and accepted but what I will tell you is that I won’t fucking stand for it anymore! I’m talking to you, Gerard Butler! Honestly who the fuck do you think you are? You, Mr. “movie star”, can choke on your own…ego. Not that I even remember your last hit movie but it seems like 300 was years ago. I would like to make something crystal fucking clear to you, your behavior the other night, publicly acting as if you were embarrassed to have ever met me or had relations with me as if I were some horrid decrepit troll is not only disgusting but unacceptable. #Timesup on this kind of behavior. Just a little advice for you moving forward Scorpio to Scorpio: Respect the women you invite into your bed and into your life. Whether you know their last name or not! Whether they are famous or not! Just be a proper human being. Imagine that some man was on tv speaking of your mother, sister, daughter or even friend cringing with embarrassment. Exactly the way you acted and spoke of me. Well my two sons Mason,14 and Jake, 10 don’t have to imagine it because it just happened to them, to me and to all of us. With the Me Too movement I have found my voice again and I refuse to stay quiet. I may not have been sexually harassed but I have been humiliated, embarrassed, financially tortured and emotionally abused by men in power, in my work life and by men like you in my personal life. Number one, why do you think you are such a damn prize and what the fuck would have changed if you had known my last name?? Many, many years ago I was on a fairly new late night talk show called Watch What Happens Live and I was asked who was the most famous man I had ever slept with. At that time you were kind of a big thing so I said your name. I then was asked on a scale from 1-10 what would I rate you as a lover. I very kindly said an 11. I was completely caught off guard obviously not expecting any of these questions and the moment after I answered them I regretted it.

So the rating of an 11 I gave you as a lover was a knee jerk reaction peace offering for having blurted out your name. I could have actually just told the truth. I NEVER in God’s world imagined I would be on tv let a-fucking-lone be asked these questions. I guess unfortunately for you it was my truth in that moment. I’m not an actor but I did marry, have two kids and divorce one. I honestly never sought out the life that I live now filled with insecurities, trust issues and doubt. I don’t give two fucks about fame but that’s probably why it randomly found me. The truth is that because of my inability to put up with other people’s bullshit, not think before I speak and fight back hardcore during a very ugly, very public, very devastating and heart crippling divorce, I was catapulted into the whirlwind of reality tv. If been given the choice I’d rather be fucking happily married to a “faithful” Eddie Cibrian quietly-ish raising our 2 beautiful boys with no cameras other than the ones he worked in front of. All of this said I was not given a choice. This quote, unquote “career” of mine has allowed me to fend for myself pay my own bills and raise my two beautiful boys and ultimately I’m thankful for it.

You seem to be caught up on the fact that I didn’t tell you my last name or what I did for work before we actually ‘hooked up”. When I’m out at a party and someone walks up to me and says hi what’s your name, like most people I simply say “hi I’m Brandi nice to meet you”. Furthermore if you have to tell someone you’re famous…you’re not only an asshole but you clearly are not that fucking famous!!!

So Gerry are you saying that had you known I was on reality tv that you would not have approached me and asked for my number?? Do you have something against reality TV? Are you too big of a movie star to be associated with lowly reality television personalities? Honestly, what would knowing my last name have changed? Are you a better level of a human being because you do movie work? For the record I am now embarrassed to have ever known you. I think you suck and my dad wants to kick your ass.

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  • Miriam
    January 22, 2018 at 8:00 pm

    I’m no longer a fan of Gerard Butler. What an ass. I’m glad you spoke up Brandi. It shows your self worth and what a tool Butler is.

  • ATX Girly
    January 22, 2018 at 8:15 pm

    I swear I didn’t even know who lame Gerry was until it came out from your book. He should thank you for keeping his name out there. #urwelcome

  • Kacie
    January 22, 2018 at 11:19 pm

    Love this!!! Let no man disrespect you! Thank you for not on demanding respect for yourself but other woman out there treated the same way.

    • Kacie
      January 22, 2018 at 11:21 pm

      *not only

  • Shelly
    January 22, 2018 at 11:36 pm

    Your awesome for this!!!

  • Jessica
    January 23, 2018 at 1:14 am

    To be honest, I haven’t always been a fan of yours, or at least the person I watched on HWs, but I do admire your hustle and take no prisoners attitude. This post was written beautifully! Take that, GB!

  • Stephanie
    January 23, 2018 at 1:36 am

    Brandi, I instantly wanted to be your friend when you were on RHOBH, I follow you on allsocial media, have purchased many bottles of Unfiltered Blonde, own both of your books., and listen to your podcast religiously. Truthfully, some of the things you say make me cringe … this is not one of them.

    You are a human bring. The way Gerard Butler has treated you is awful. While these comments are never okay, I am in shock that he thought making them in the midst of the #metoo and #timesup movement. If he had any respect for women, he would of just not said a thing to the reporter. I vow to boycott Gerard Butler for what he did to you, unless an apology follows.

    Lift your head high… And keep focusing on you! You have so much going for you. 2018 is the year of Brandi!

    P.S. Can you please be my bff!?!? Xoxo

  • Carlos
    January 23, 2018 at 1:49 am

    Brandi, you’re a strong bitch. You’ve taken worse shit from worse people. Don’t allow this chubby has-been of an “actor” to humilliate you. You said it first: fuck me over once; shame on you, fuck me over twice shame on me.

  • Lisa
    January 23, 2018 at 3:32 am

    Bravo Brandi men always feel superior because of the brain between their legs for him to assume that he was important enough for you to actually care who he was and what he did mimics Hus insecurities and realisation that he is now a fascination of the past.

  • Lucy
    January 23, 2018 at 4:53 am

    Aww Brandi, you tell him!!! What a douche. Never ever ever let a man make you feel this way again. #GirlPower

  • Jennifer rama
    January 23, 2018 at 12:00 pm

    Well done!

  • Arica Marx
    January 23, 2018 at 12:10 pm

    You rock! While people with power abuse issues are central to this issue, clearly a big take away is how we are raising our kids. Albeit, I am lucky to know a lot of outstanding men , so much of this crappy behavior belongs to men who have never learned or have forgotten how to be an evolved adult, equipped with manners, a conscience and a bid to contribute to there small and large communities.

    So sorry for your pain, but he’s the one who looks like a punk!
    Take good care and enjoy your kids and the beautiful life you so deserve!
    xoxo Arica

  • Karen
    January 23, 2018 at 12:59 pm


  • Stephanie
    January 23, 2018 at 1:36 pm

    I don’t watch The Real Housewives of anything … but after the news picked up this story I watched him disrespect you on a stupid talk show of gossip queens and it made me sick! He’s always treated women as property. I’m glad you stood up for yourself. You’re been treated like shit too many times and why?… all because you have tried to remain classy and not raise your voice at people. They’ve stomped on your heart and on your self esteem and they are disgusting people! Your ex is a nasty person who is insecure and will end up cheating on Leann and leaving her eventually. Gerard feels he has to treat women like property because something is wrong with the way he views himself. He tries to find ways of building his self esteem by putting others down.

    You’re too good for this shit. So happy you stood up for yourself and for every woman who gets trampled on by Mr. Has-been Movie Star. You deserve more respect.

  • Susan
    January 23, 2018 at 3:02 pm

    Rock on! That’s all I’ve got to say!

  • MizOtis
    January 23, 2018 at 3:30 pm

    Good for you…continue to kick ass in life, I’ve always loved your attitude and miss you on RHOBH.

  • Cynthia E. O'Brien
    January 23, 2018 at 5:45 pm

    Amen to that Brandi! Good job putting him in his place! Your a prize and don’t forget it!

  • Elizabeth O'Leary
    January 23, 2018 at 10:36 pm

    Brandi, all of this is beneath you! Gerry, as an Irish lass…
    we don’t kiss and tell! Middle age doesn’t lend itself to high school locker room talk
    and behavior. You are better than that.
    Love you!

  • scootie371
    January 23, 2018 at 10:50 pm

    GOOD FOR YOU! I don’t always agree with her but she is totally right here. He has behaved like a total jackazz with no class!

  • Dimple
    January 25, 2018 at 3:08 am

    Amazing post! Thank you for sharing Brandi—love you so much!

  • Wendy Knox-Leet
    February 4, 2018 at 9:17 am

    Good for you Brandi. This male behaviour needs to be called out. Women deserve to be respected. You are strong and very brave and I respect your voice and the life you live. Brava